If you’re no stranger to online dating, you know opening lines aren’t easy. You don’t have the advantage of body language, tone of voice, or your own attractiveness to help break the ice. So what do you do? The answer is you need a solid pick up line as an icebreaker for online dating.
You’ve probably seen a few great Tinder openers like this one, and you know they aren’t going to get a response... or at least not a good one.
In this guide, we’re going to teach you everything you need to know to avoid dead-end lines like this one. You'll learn:
So, if you want some advice on becoming a suave online dating pick-up line expert, read on!
If you want to get an answer to your message, you have to say something that in the least, merits a response. Simply saying “Hey” or “What’s up?” isn’t good enough, and will get a response far less frequently than almost anything else. One of the best approaches to take is to ask a question that requires the other person to reveal something personal.
Not just any question is suitable though. Asking someone their favorite color isn’t any more likely to get a response than “What’s up?” On the other hand, asking them about something related to any interest they might have talked about in their profile is likely to get an answer. It’s also always nice if you can come up with a clever way to ask the question that will actually pique their interest.
As we just mentioned, you have access to the other person's profile and pictures before you message them, so take advantage of whatever you may know about them! If they mention favorite movies, talk about those. If you see them playing basketball in their profile picture, strike up a conversation about your favorite players or teams.
Don’t be afraid to ask a question that may reveal something personal about you as well. Getting just one response might not be enough, so you should bring up a topic you’re comfortable talking about. For example, try bringing up a subject that you have an interesting anecdote about.
Conversely, don’t ask about baseball if you’ve never seen a game! The person you’re trying to talk to probably won’t want to keep up the conversation if it becomes clear that you aren't knowledgeable or have nothing compelling to say about their interests.
Think about all the messages you’ve ever seen or received. Did any of them really stand out to you? Remember that you’re talking to a real person who, if they’re familiar with online dating, probably isn’t expecting that much from you. If you can think of something clever to say, the person may be more likely to respond. In fact, some people will even respond to a person simply because they came up with a clever line.
A funny joke or something light-hearted is much easier to respond to than something overly serious or personal. Keep it light, and be as clever as you can when focusing on their interests.
You know what you’re looking for from a message, so be direct about that. If you’re looking for a casual relationship, it’s okay to say that. It's better to be honest and make sure the other person knows where you stand from the start. You can still be clever and cute while keeping things straight, though... and the recipient of your message will likely appreciate your honesty and answer you.
Avoid these cliché, unoriginal, and sometimes creepy messages that often lead to no responses:
Try these out to see if you can get a response. They’re cute, clever, and hard to ignore.
We hope that this guide helps you get on track with your online dating game. Remember to always be yourself, and to keep safe while dating online. If you need any more help, be sure to check out our step-by-step tutorials and courses for dating apps and sites like OkCupid, eHarmony, or Zoosk.
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