What is eHarmony? + How eHarmony Works

Last updated: October 12, 2016 - 6:24pm EDT

For people who are new to the dating scene (or have been out of it for a while), using an online dating service -- especially for the first time -- can be daunting.  What information should I include or exclude on my profile?  What photos will make me look good?  How will I know if I'm a good match with someone without actually meeting them?  What if someone isn't who they say they are?

Dr. Neil Clark Warren designed eHarmony to be different from other dating websites, in ways that would take the worry and stress out of dating.  It uses proven emotional and psychological science to get at the heart of what you really want out of a relationship, beyond just surface attributes such as physical appearance or interests.  This, in turn, gets you more matches with whom you are likely to be emotionally and psychologically compatible, and thus more likely to form long-lasting relationships.

So, what exactly is eHarmony?

eHarmony is an online dating service that uses proven relationship science to find you emotionally and psychologically-compatible matches, as well as guide communication between you and your matches.  Available in over 150 countries worldwide, eHarmony also studies relationships and gives relationship advice.

How does eHarmony work?  4 steps to starting a relationship on eHarmony

1. Sign up for a free eHarmony account.

Registering for eHarmony is quick, easy, and free!  Just enter some quick details about yourself: your first name, your gender, your match gender preference, your mailing code, your country, your email address, and an account password.  You can also tell eHarmony where you heard about them, if you like.  Then click Find My Matches, and you're off to the races!

The sign-up screen for eHarmony

2. Take the eHarmony questionnaire, and explore the inner workings of your relationship needs.

One of eHarmony's signature features is its relationship questionnaire.  Forget questions like what your hair colour is, if you have any pets, or what you like to do on weekends.  eHarmony's questions are meant to probe your emotions, your thoughts, and your values -- the stuff that really shapes your love life.  It takes quite a bit of time and effort to finish the questionnaire, but just think how worthwhile it will be if it leads you to find someone with whom you really hit it off!

Answering a question from the eHarmony questionnaire

3. Take the reins and check out your matches.

After completing eHarmony's questionnaire, they will automatically match you with several people who had similar answers to you.  You can view their details, take a look at their photos (if you have a premium subscription), send them a virtual smile, or start communicating with them!  You can also block a match if you don't feel like they're the one for you.

Viewing a match on eHarmony

4. eHarmony guides communication with your matches to set a comfortable pace.

When you feel that it's time to start communicating with your matches, eHarmony will make sure that it's at a pace that is comfortable with everyone by keeping track of whose turn it is to send a message.  Ask one of your matches a few questions about what they want in a relationship, and see how they answer.  Then, let them ask you a few questions, and respond as honestly as you can.  If the two of you click, and you both have premium subscriptions, you can start sending free-form emails back and forth through eHarmony's secure internal email system!

Communicating with matches on eHarmony


The rest of our eHarmony course will feature lessons on how to sign up for eHarmony, how to make your eHarmony profile, how to use eHarmony's interface, and even how to delete your eHarmony account and find another dating website if eHarmony just isn't working for you.  Hopefully, however, eHarmony will help you find someone with whom you're truly compatible.  If you're new to dating, or are just looking to take the gamble out of it, bet on the science of love with eHarmony!


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