Communicating on Match.com

It’s all well and good to look for people whom you might be interested in on Match. But where do you take things from there?  And what if you want to reach out to someone if they’ve expressed interest in you?

Most of the communication features require a paid subscription.  (See our How Much does Match.com Cost article.)  Once you have one, though, read on to find out how to make a connection!

Emails

Emails are probably the most important form of communication on Match. You can find the link to email someone while viewing your matches…

Email Her/Him button

… or while viewing someone’s profile during a search.

Email Her/Him button

Click it to start an email to the person.

You will be taken to the email composition screen, like the one below. We’ve highlighted a few points of interest with red numbers; see the numbered headers below the screenshot for explanations of what we’ve pointed out.

1. Recipient’s Information – This shows you a bit of information about the person you’re sending the email to, in case you need some inspiration as to what to talk about.

2. Information Category Selector – Click here and select an option from the drop-down menu to change what kind of information you see about the recipient, from what they say about themselves to their hobbies and sports interests.

3. Get Tips – If you’re totally stuck as for what to write, click here for a helpful list of “dos and don’ts” when it comes to writing a dating email to someone.

4. Subject – Click in this box and type in what you want the subject of your email to be.

5. Message – Click in this box and type in what you want to say to the email recipient.

6. Save as Draft – Click here if you’re not quite finished your email and want to come back to it later for some edits or final touches.

7. Send Now – When your email looks the way you want it to, click this to send it off to your recipient.  Cross your fingers and hope they write back!

Chat / Instant Messaging

Don’t feel like waiting around for a reply to an email?  Make your connection right now by chatting with someone who’s currently online!

The easiest way to find someone to chat with is to click Chat in the upper-right corner.

Chat button

This will open a new sidebar that shows you who in your area is available to chat right now.  Move your mouse cursor over the picture of the person whom you wish to chat with to open a pop-up box with more information about them, and then click Chat Now to open the chat window.

Chat Now button

Also, if someone who shows up in a search that you do is available to chat, it will say so in their profile thumbnail.  Click IM Now to open the chat window.

IM Now button - use if they are currently online

Once you have the chat window open, click in the box that says “Enter Text…”, type in what you want to say, and then press the “Enter” key on your keyboard.

When you’re done chatting with that person, click the “X” button to close the chat window.

Send a message

Winks

Are you the shy type?  Just can’t figure out what would be the best way to approach that person you like?  Or maybe you just want them to take the lead?  Try a “wink” to let them know you’re really interested in them, without having to say a single word!  Best of all, you don’t even need a paid membership to use this feature!

Whenever you’re viewing someone’s quick profile or full profile, just click Wink For Free.  That’s all there is to it!

Send a Wink

The recipient will be notified that you gave them a “wink”.  If they like you, too, they might send a “wink” back, or even send you an email or start a chat with you.  You’ll never know unless you try!

 

Well, those are the basic ways that you can communicate with someone over Match!  Here’s hoping that you can use at least one of them to get some chemistry going with someone!


Match.com Search

Match.com may be the most popular dating website in the world, but how will you know who might be the right person for you if you don’t get out there and look for them?  Fortunately, the service has several different to find who you’re looking for or who you might be compatible with, based on profile information or information that you specify.  Best of all, they’re all really simple to use.

To start searching, go to www.match.com and log in (if you haven’t already).  Move your mouse cursor over Search in the menu across the top, and then select one of the options from the drop-down menu (Go Search, Mutual Match, Reverse Match, and Community Search).  Don’t worry; we’ll explain what each of these different types of searches are, and you can easily switch between each of them once you get to the “Search” page.

Search menu option

Types of Match.com Searches

Go Search

This is the most general type of search on Match.  It’s the one that gives you the most control over who you’re looking for, but it’s also the one that involves the most amount of work to use effectively.  We’ll start with this one, since a lot of what you see here will show up in other types of searches. We’ve singled out a few important areas of the screen with red numbers; the corresponding captions below the screenshot will explain what they do.

1. Search Type – Click one of the tabs here to switch to a different type of search.

2. Sort By – Click the box here to open a drop-down menu that lets you pick a certain way to sort your search results, including:

– Who Match has already picked out for you as matches vs. who it hasn’t picked
– When they last logged in (or if they’re logged in now)
– How long they’ve been using the service
– Their age (from youngest to oldest)
– How many photos they have on their account
– Their user name (i.e. an alphabetical list)
– How far away from you they live
– How many traits you each have that the other wants
– How many traits you have that they want

3. Availability Filters – Click on these check boxes to include or exclude people from your search based on:

– If they are logged in right now
– If they are available for instant messaging
– If they have one or more photographs on their profile

4. Search Profile Matches – Short (thumbnail) versions of people’s profiles that have matched your search criteria show up here.  You can see, among other things:

– Their user name
– Their profile photo (if they have one)
– Their age
– Their location
– The last time they logged in (or if they’re logged in now)
– Whether they’re new to Match
– Whether they have any more photos in their account
– How compatible you are (i.e. how many traits each of you has that the other wants)

Click on the person’s photo, user name, or number of additional photos to go to their profile.  You can also click Quick View to view a condensed version of their profile, or click Save to add them to a list of your favorite matches.

5. Basic Search Criteria – Click Edit here to change your basic search criteria.  You can change, among other things:

– Your gender and the gender of matches that you’re looking for (drop-down menu)
– The minimum age of matches that you’re looking for (drop-down menu)
– The maximum age of matches that you’re looking for (drop-down menu)
– If your matches have to have photos or be logged in now (check boxes)
– How far away potential matches can be from a certain location (click-and-type text boxes)
OR
– A specific country/region/city that matches can be in (mostly drop-down menus)

You can also click Save Search to save your criteria or results for future reference.  Click in the text box in the pop-up window that appears and type in a name for your search.  You can also click the check box underneath to have Match send you a list of matches based on who you found with this search.  Then click the “Save Search” button.

6. Advanced Search Criteria – Click one of these categories to open up a list of subcategories.  Click a subcategory, and then click the check boxes next to the options within that subcategory to add them to your search.  Repeat for as many criteria as you want to add, and then click Apply.

For example, if you want to search for matches that only have blonde or red hair, click the Appearance category, then click on the Hair Color subcategory, and then click the check boxes next to “Auburn/Red” and “Blonde”.  Then click Apply.

You can also click the Keyword category, click the text box that appears, and type in a word that you’re looking to see in someone’s profile.  Then click Apply.

7. User Name Search – If you know the user name of a specific person that you like, but you can’t find them in any of your search lists, click the text box here and type in their user name.  Then click Search, which will take you right to their profile.

Mutual Match

A mutual match search finds and sorts people for you based on how many traits they have that you’re looking for, and how many traits you have that they’re looking for.  You can see how closely you match in each person’s profile thumbnail (as highlighted in the screenshot below).  You can also click the “Sort By…” box highlighted in the screenshot below to sort the list based on:

  • How many traits you each have that the other wants

  • When they were last logged in

  • How long they’ve been using Match

  • Their age (from youngest to oldest)

  • How many photos they have on their account

  • Their user name (i.e. an alphabetical list)

  • How far away from you they live

  • How many traits you have that they want

Sort by Reverse Match

Reverse Match

A reverse match search finds and sorts people for you based solely on how many traits you have that they’re looking for.  You can click the “Sort By…” box highlighted in the screenshot below to sort the list based on:

  • How many traits you have that they want

  • When they were last logged in

  • How long they’ve been using Match

  • Their age (from youngest to oldest)

  • How many photos they have on their account

  • Their user name (i.e. an alphabetical list)

  • How far away from you they live

  • How many traits you each have that the other wants

Sort by Original Match

Community Search

This is a unique type of search that pairs you with people based on different brands or organizations that you both like.  Let’s have a look at how it works. See the numbered captions below the screenshot for an explanation of what we’ve pointed out with our red numbers.

1. Search Types – Click on one of these tabs to switch to a different type of search.

2. Sort – You can sort your results by:

– How many traits you each have that the other wants
– When they were last logged in
– How long they’ve been using Match
– Their age (from youngest to oldest)
– How many photos they have on their account
– Their user name (i.e. an alphabetical list)

3. Availability Filters – Click each of the check boxes here to include or exclude certain people based on:

– If they are logged into Match.com right now
– If they are available for instant messaging
– If they have one or more photographs on their profile

4. Search Profile Matches – Here you can see some brief information about the profiles that matched your search, including their main profile photo (if they have one), user name, age, and location, as well as the last time they logged in and how compatible you are with them.  You can also see the brands and organizations that they are interested in along the bottom of their profile thumbnail.

Click on their user name or photo to open more detailed information about their profile, or click Save to add them to a list of your favorite matches.

5. Basic Search Criteria – Click Edit here to edit your basic search criteria.  You can change:

– Your gender and the gender of matches that you’re looking for (drop-down menu)
– The minimum age of matches that you’re looking for (drop-down menu)
– The maximum age of matches that you’re looking for (drop-down menu)
– If your matches have to have photos or be logged in now (check boxes)
– How far away potential matches can be from a certain location (click-and-type text boxes)

6. Community Search Criteria – Click one of these categories to open up a list of brands or groups in that category.  Click the group or brand that you want the matches you search to have interest in, and then click the check box next to the sub-option to add it to your search.  Repeat for as many groups or brands as you want to add, and then click Apply.

For certain brands or groups, there will only be one sub-option to pick: the brand or group name.  However, other brands or groups may contain several sub-brands or subgroups, so you can select as many or as few as you like.  For example, if you select a sports league, you can pick the different teams in that league that you cheer for.  Find a match that’s a fellow fan of your favorite teams!

 

Those are the different types of searches that you can perform!


Match.com Matching

Now that you’ve created your profile, how does Match use it — and how can you use it — to find people whom you’d be interested in hooking up with?  As the question implies, there are certain people whom Match.com will bring to you, and others whom you will need to get out there on the website and find on your own.

Daily Matches

The most common way of getting matches on Match.com is to let the website automatically do it for you, based on comparisons between your profile and the profiles of others.  How you rate and interact with the profiles you see can also affect who you get matched with. 

This feature is known as “Daily Matches”, because 24 hours after you rate all of the new matches you’ve received from Match, you get a fresh new set.  So you’ll always have new people to look at and decide if you’d like to see where things go with them!

  1. Go to www.match.com and log in (if you haven’t already).  On your main screen, click Daily Matches in the menu on the left, or move your mouse cursor over Matches in the menu across the top and click Daily Matches.

    Daily Matches button

    (P.S.  The number beside “Daily Matches” tells you how many new matches you still have to rate before you get a new set.)

  2. You will be taken to your “Daily Matches” page.  Let’s have a look at it. The red numbers in the screenshot below highlight core features; the corresponding captions below will explain each of them.

    1. New Matches – This shows you how many new matches you haven’t rated since yesterday.  Click on the left and right arrows here to scroll through your matches, or click a person’s picture to make them appear in the window to the right.  A checkmark will appear on the pictures of people whom you’ve shown interest in, while an “X” will appear on the pictures of people whom you’ve said you’re not interested in.

    2. They’re Interested – Click here to see the profiles of people who have shown interest in you as a match. Note that you must have a paid subscription in order to use this feature.  

    3. You’re Interested – Click here to see the profiles of people whom you have told Match you’re interested in.

    3. Match Me – This allows you to manually search for and match people with you.  See the “Manual Matching” section below.

    4. Current Match’s Profile Picture – The photo that the match you currently have selected has chosen as their profile picture (if they have one).  Click the “thumbs-up” symbol here to tell them that you like their picture, or click anywhere else on the picture to see their additional photos (if they have any).

    5. Current Match’s Basic Info – This shows you some basic information about the match you currently have selected, including height, body type, ethnicity, religion, tobacco/alcohol habits, etc.  You may need to click View More when the About tab is highlighted to see a few more things.

    6. Current Match’s Detailed Info / Photos – This will show you one of two things, depending on whether the About or Photos tab is highlighted.  You can click either of them to switch between the two.

    If the About tab is highlighted, this will show you some advanced information about the match you currently have selected.  This includes:

    – Their user name, age, and location
    – A few ways in which you and them are alike
    – A brief in-their-own-words description of themselves
    – What they are interested in
    – What they are looking for in a match

    Some of these may be hidden unless you click the View More tab.

    If the Photos tab is highlighted, you can scroll through the photos of the match you currently have selected, and see the captions that the person has provide for those photos.  You can click the “thumbs-up” symbol in the corner of any of the photos to tell your match that you like those photos.

    7. Interest Rating – The numbers at the far right show you where this match is in terms of the total number of new matches that you haven’t rated yet.  Click the checkmark here to tell Match that you’re interested in this match; this will move this match’s profile to the You’re Interested tab in the menu on the left, and send that person a notification that you’re interested in them.  Or, click the “X” here to tell Match that you’re not interested in this match.

    You can also click Email Him/Her Now to immediately send this match an introductory email; this button will also appear after you’ve told Match that you are or are not interested in them. (Note that you must have a paid subscription in order to email any of your matches; our How Much does Match.com Cost article will help you choose your subscription.)

Manual Matches

If your Daily Matches don’t produce anyone whom you’re especially fond of, you can also manually match yourself with certain people whom you find while searching the website.

  1. Move your mouse cursor over Search in the menu across the top, and pick one of the search options.  

    Search for matches menu option

  2. If you find someone who looks interesting, click either their user name/photo or Quick View to view either their full or condensed profile, respectively.

    Select a match

  3. If you meet enough of the person’s match criteria (and the ones that you don’t match aren’t “deal breakers”), you can click Match Me with Him/Her to add that person to your Daily Matches, and add yourself to their Daily Matches.

    Match Me button

Though you can use this feature without a paid subscription, be aware that it costs money every time you use it, so use it sparingly!

Synapse Matches

“Synapse” is the computer program that Match uses to match you with potential dates on the website, based not only what is in each other’s profile, but how each of you uses the website.  You can also use it directly to find new matches.

  1. In the menu across the top of the screen, move your mouse cursor over Matches, and click Synapse.

    Synapse button

  2. In the new screen, you will see some of the people whom Synapse has matched you with based on the preferences you indicated in your profile, whom you’ve interacted with (in some way), and how you’ve chosen to interact or match yourself with others.

    Synapse matches

  3. You can also use Synapse directly to find new matches by using the criteria from previous matches.  If you move your mouse cursor over a previous match’s picture, you will see a small amount of information about them, along with an Add Below button.  Clicking this button will add that person’s profile as a set of search criteria to help Synapse find you new matches.  Their picture will be highlighted with a check mark when you do this.

    Add Below button

  4. Matches you have added as new match search criteria will appear in the bottom-left corner, as shown here.  You can select up to three previous matches to use as search criteria for new matches.  If you change your mind and don’t want to use a certain person’s profile as a set of search criteria, click the “X” in the top-right corner of their picture.

    Choose your favorite profiles to get better matches

  5. When you’ve picked the people that you want to use as search criteria, click Match Me, and see who you find!

    Match Me button

Those are some of the general ways that you can find matches!  If you need some help narrowing down your choices, head over to our next tutorial about searching on Match


How to Edit Your Match.com Profile

As with any major online dating website (like eHarmony.com), your profile should be a focal point to express who you are and what you’re looking for in a partner. If your Match.com profile just isn’t quite right, perhaps because your interests have changed or you missed filling something out when creating your profile, then you can easily change it.  You can also add extra photos of exciting stuff that you’ve done, or even hide your profile if you don’t want to be bothered while looking for matches.

Editing your Match.com profile

Go to www.match.com in your web browser and log in (if you haven’t already).  From any screen, there are two ways to get to your profile to edit it.

  • Click Welcome [your user name]

  • Click your picture in the menu across the top

Match homepage

There are three categories of settings that you can change, denoted by the tabs near the top of your profile.  Click each of them to switch between categories of settings.

Your Match profile

Profile Settings Categories

About

This is the category you should see first.  It contains everything you told Match about yourself and what you are looking for in a match. 

Click the pencil icon (Edit profile aspects button - pencil icon) beside any subcategory to edit it.

Questionnaire answers

Now, make any changes you want by clicking on buttons, check boxes, or drop-down menu items, or by clicking and typing in text boxes, just like you did when you first created your profile (see our previous tutorial for the specifics).

When you’re done, click Apply, or click Cancel if you decide that you don’t want to make changes after all.

Apply changes to profile

Photos

This category lets you see all the photos that you’ve put on Match.  It also lets you upload more photos or bring over your photos from Facebook, write comments about your photos, or select which photo you want to use as your profile picture.

Note that the service may have to approve your photos or captions before you can do certain things.

To add more photos, click the Choose Photo button.

Add photo screen

A window will come up allowing you to look through your computer files.  When you find the photo you want, click to select it, and then click Open.

Choose image from saved files on computer

The top part of the window shows you your current photos.  You can have up to 26 photos on your profile.  Click on a photo in this window to immediately take you to its options (or you can just scroll down the screen to it instead).

Re-order photos

When you see a larger version of one of your photos, there are a couple of things you can do with it.  You can say something about it by clicking in the box that says “Write a caption for this photo” and typing a description.  Then click Add Caption.

Caption photos

If your photo has been approved, you can make it your profile picture by clicking Make This My Primary Photo.  This option will say “This Is My Primary Photo” if the photo is already your profile picture.

Choose a primary photo to display

If you don’t want the picture on your profile anymore, click the “X” in the top right corner.  You will see it says “Delete Photo” if you move your mouse over it.

Delete Photo button

Settings

This is where you can control a few other options and additional features.

One of the things you can change here is whether or not your profile is visible.  Click to select one of three options:

  • Visible — Your profile can be viewed by anyone on the platform.  Choose this setting to keep the interest in you coming in.

  • Private Mode — Your profile can only be viewed by people whom you have communicated with.  This makes it easy to focus on a few select people whom you like at a time.  However, it is an extra feature that you have to pay for (click Upgrade Now if you want it).

  • Hidden — Your profile cannot be viewed by anyone.  Choose this setting if you want to just look for people yourself without having them try to find and contact you.

Adjust photo settings

You can also choose whether or not you are using the “Member Spotlight” feature.  This lets the service use your profile in its advertising on its website and partner websites, so you have a better chance of being seen by someone who likes you.

Click the respective buttons next to “ON” and “OFF” to opt in or out of this feature.

Match Spotlight settings

 

There!  Now you know how to change up your profile if you ever need to!


How to Create a Match.com Profile

When you sign up for Match.com, they will walk you through the process of creating your own profile, so you can let people know a little bit about what you look like, who you are, and what you’re looking for in a date or partner.  This will help other people know that if you come up in one of their searches, they’ll know that you’re someone they might be interested in!

This is a bit of a drawn-out process because there are a lot of dimensions to cover, but bear with us!

Creating your Match.com profile

  1. After signing up for Match, you’ll see a screen like the one below. You can click Upload Photos in the top-right corner at any time during this process to upload a photo of yourself. Click Upload File from Computer to open a window that lets you browse through your computer’s files.  Find the photo of yourself that you want people to see, click to select it, and then click Open.

    Then, use the drop-down menus, buttons, and check boxes in the main part of the screen to set up information for your profile. When you’re done, click Keep Going in the bottom-right corner (it says Start Matching here because it’s the first page.

  2. Match will now start asking you questions about the types of people that you would like to be matched with, including their:

    – hair color, eye color, body type, height, and weight
    – education and languages
    – ethnicity and religious beliefs
    – status regarding relationships and children
    – salary and alcohol/smoking habits

    For questions with check boxes, you can choose more than one answer; click More beside these questions to see more options. Most questions will also have a “No Preference” option if you feel it isn’t that important to you. Conversely, some questions will have a “Deal Breaker” box that you can check if that attribute is important to you and you want Match to follow it more strictly when selecting matches. And you can always click Go Back if you change your mind and want to adjust some of your answers.

  3. Eventually, Match will begin asking you questions about yourself, including your:

    – hair color, eye color, body type, and height
    – relationship status, children status, religious beliefs, and general political views
    – education level, occupation, and salary, as well as the city or town you grew up in
    – smoking, alcohol, and exercise habits
    – languages and ethnicity
    – favorite local venues and pets owned or liked
    – likes, hobbies, and things you’ve read recently
    – short biography of who you are and what you’re looking for in a match

    You can leave some of the questions as “No Answer”, or leave them blank if they’re marked as optional, if you don’t feel like sharing that information. Remember, though, the more information you provide, the easier it will be for Match to find people you might really hit it off with!

  4. When you’re done setting up your profile, Match will send you a preliminary list of matches.  Click on each of them to check or uncheck them (depending on who you like), and then click Keep Going.  This will help it have a little better of an idea of who you’re looking for.  You can also click Skip if you don’t want to look at any matches right now.

    View your preliminary matches

Congrats! Your Match.com profile has been created!


How to Sign Up for Match.com

So you’ve decided to give Match a shot.  Great!  This tutorial will show you how to get a free account on the website set up, and you can go from there.

  1. Go to www.match.com and click Member Sign In.

    Match homepage

  2. Near the bottom of the new screen, click Join for FREE.

    Match sign up screen

  3. You’ll see some new information boxes that you will need to fill in.

    Match sign up form

    Click in the boxes highlighted in the first section above and type in or select (from top to bottom):

    — Your email address
    — Your date of birth
    — The country in which you live
    — Your mailing code
    — Your gender
    — The gender of people whom you are looking to match with
    — A user name that will identify you on Match
    — A password to keep your account secure

    Once you have filled in all of this information, click Continue.

You will receive an email confirming your account creation if everything checks out.  Congratulations!  You’re now officially on Match!  Now, to get an idea of whom you might be interested in — as well as who might be interested in you — check out our next tutorial on how to create a Match.com profile.