Stitch Events

Looking for a place to meet fellow Stitch users, have a good time, and perhaps make some new friends?  The Stitch community in your area might have something lined up, and if they don’t, then you can organize your own event and promote it on Stitch!  Note that to do most things regarding events on Stitch, you must be verified.

To start, go to www.stitch.net in your web browser and log in.  Then, click Events in the bottom-right corner.

How to join an event on Stitch

  1. You will see a list of events being put on by Stitch or its users in certain areas.  Click one to see more details on it.

  2. You will see a more in-depth description of an event to the left, a summary of the important event facts on the right (cost, start time, approximate duration, and guest limit), and a gallery of promotional photos at the bottom.  Click I’m Interested if this is an event that you would like to go to.

This will send your information to Stitch, and they will contact you with further information about the event.

How to suggest an event to Stitch

  1. Go back to the main page for Events on Stitch.  (An easy way to do this is to click Menu in the top-right corner, and click Events.)

  2. At the upper-right corner of the events list, click Suggest an Event.

  3. A window will appear asking you to enter details about your event.  Click in the empty box and type in a description for the event, using at least 100 characters (letters, numbers, symbols, etc.).  Then click Submit.

Again, Stitch will contact you to set up further details of the event, or you can contact them at support.stitch.net.

That’s a little bit about events on Stitch!


Stitch Travel

Is globetrotting one of your passions in life?  Why not do it with other older adults like you, and meet some new friends, or perhaps a romantic interest?  Stitch allows you to sign up for trips and tours around the world, making for a unique social and cultural experience!

How to R.S.V.P. for a trip or tour on Stitch

  1. Go to www.stitch.net in your web browser and log in.

  2. When you get to your main screen, click on Travel.

  3. Click on a trip or tour to see more information about it.

  4. At the top of the screen, you will see the trip name, destination, and departure date.  The left-hand side will give a more detailed description of the trip.  At the bottom of the screen, you’ll find a photo gallery that you can scroll through by clicking the arrows at either end.

    The right side of the screen will give a summary of the trip’s vital information, such as price, duration, and the company facilitating the trip (besides Stitch, of course).  Click I’m Interested if this is a trip that you’d like more information on.

This will send your information to Stitch, and they should contact you soon with further instructions and confirmation details.

As far as the website goes, that’s about all there is to Stitch Travel!


Stitch Community

Stitch is more than just a place to meet up with fellow older adults for dating or companionship, you know!  The website also has its own community for discussing topics relevant to older adults looking to get back on the social scene, including dating advice, financial tips, and even just updates on what Stitch is planning next.  You can speak your mind on issues that you feel passionate about, have a conversation with other Stitch users, share something you think will be interesting or useful with someone else, suggest a new article, or continue the connection on social media.

To start, go to www.stitch.net in your web browser and log in.  Then, click on Community.

How to read, comment on, and share a Stitch Community article

  1. Find a story that you’d like to read, and click on it to see more details.

  2. Once you’ve read a story, if you’d like to comment on it, scroll to the bottom of the screen, to the section titled “Leave a Comment”.  Click in each of the text boxes here and type in your name, email address, website address (optional), and your comment. 

    Click either or both of the check boxes here to receive an email when someone else comments on this article, or responds to a comment that you made on this article.  Then click Post Comment.

  3. If someone else has already commented on the article, you can click Reply beside the comment to make a comment in response to their comment.  Then, just follow step 2.

  4. You can also click the social media icons near the top of the article (from left to right, they are Facebook, Twitter, email, Google Plus, and Pinterest) to share this article with someone else.  You will have to log into the account that you choose and allow Stitch to post on your behalf, or — if you selected email — choose an email client and use it to send a message.

    NOTE: The numbers over each logo tell you how often this article has been shared using that method.

  5. If you like this article, you can click one of the red terms that we’ve highlighted in the boxes in the screenshot below to see articles from a similar category, that were posted on the same day, or that were written by the same author.

    NOTE: There are also category options down the left-hand side, if you want to view an article in a completely different category.

How to suggest a Stitch Community article or ask a question

  1. Back on the main Community page, along the right-hand side, you will see the Request a Blog Topic and Ask Sandy a Travel Question buttons.

    Click the first one if you have a general idea for a Stitch article that you would like to see, or click the second one if you have a question about travelling as an older adult (that you think other Stitch users would want to know the answer to) for Sandy Lipkowitz, Stitch’s resident travel expert.

  2. Once you click one of these buttons, a window will pop up asking you to select an email client to use to send your request to Stitch.  (This is the same thing that happens for sharing an article with someone over email, so read on if you need help with that.)  Click an option (or click Choose… and search through your computer files for one, such as Microsoft Outlook) and then click Ok.

  3. From there, just write and send your message like you would with a regular email!

How to connect with Stitch on social media

  1. On the main Community page, you will see a section on the right-hand side titled “Like Us on Facebook”.  Click Stitch.net to go to Stitch’s page on Facebook, or click the Like button to log into your Facebook account (if you have one) and automatically “Like” and follow Stitch’s page.

  2. You can also reach Stitch’s social media pages from pretty much any article on the Stitch Community.  While viewing an article, under the “Follow Us” section, click on one of the social media icons (from left to right, they are Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Stitch’s R.S.S. Feed) to take you to Stitch’s page on that website.

    NOTE: Stitch’s R.S.S. (stands for Rich Site Summary or Really Simple Syndication) Feed isn’t really a social media website; it’s basically just a condensed text list of all of the articles that Stitch posts on its web log (or blog), so you can search through them quickly.

Anyway, those are a few ways that you can interact with the Stitch community writ large!


Stitch Settings

You might need to make a few tweaks to how Stitch works for you in order to get the most out of it, and that’s okay.  You can change things like:

  • What kind of relationship you’re looking for

  • How far away you want your matches to be

  • Your account email address and password

  • Your subscription plan

To get started, go to www.stitch.net in your web browser and log in.  Click Menu when you get to your main screen, and then click Settings.

You will be taken to a page that will allow you to select which category of settings you want to look at.  Click one to see the specific settings that you can change, or click Home to go back to your main screen.  You can also click Logout to log out of your Stitch account from here.

Search Criteria

Here, you can change:

  • Your gender setting

  • Whether you’re looking for a romantic or casual relationship (or either)

  • What gender of person you’re looking for a relationship with (male, female, or either)

  • The geographical proximity in which Stitch will search for matches for you

  • The phone number that Stitch can use to contact you

You’ll recognize these settings as the same when you signed up for Stitch, so visit our How to Sign Up for Stitch tutorial if you need help understanding what they mean. 

Click Save Settings at the bottom to accept any changes and go back to the “Settings” menu, or click Back in the top-left corner to go back to the “Settings” menu and discard any changes.

Account Information Settings

You can do a couple of things related to your overall account here:

  • To change the email associated with your account, click inside the box labelled “Your Email”, press the “Backspace” key on your keyboard until your email address is deleted, and then type in the new one that you want to use for your account.  Then click Change to send an email to the new address that you entered, asking you to confirm it.  Click the web address highlighted in blue in the email to confirm your new email address for your Stitch account.

  • To change your Stitch account password, first click Change Your Password.  Then click inside the box marked “Current Password” and type in your current password.  Next, click inside the box marked “New Password” and type in your new password.  Do the same thing for the box marked “Confirm New Password”.  (All three will appear as bullet points to protect them from prying eyes.)  Then click Change Password.

  • To delete your Stitch account, click Delete Your Account.  A box will pop up asking you if you really want to delete your account.  Type in the word “delete” and then click OK, if that’s what you really want to do.  Once you delete your account, there is no way to get it back, and you’ll have to create a new one, so give this decision some thought!

When you’re done, click Back to go back to the “Settings” menu.

Verification Settings

This is where you can see whether or not your identity has been verified on Stitch.  If it hasn’t, you will see options for having your identity verified here.  You cannot see full profiles of Stitch users, or contact them in any way, until your identity is verified on Stitch.  Also, you cannot join or suggest events or trips until you are verified.  See our Stitch Verification tutorial for instructions on how to get verified.

Billing and Subscription Settings

This is where you can change what services you get from Stitch, as well as how you pay them for those services.

There are three subscription options to choose from:

  • Basic — This allows you to use most of Stitch’s features for free.  However, you can only view 3 new Stitch user profile per day, and cannot use Stitch’s real-time customer support chat or secure calling features.

  • Essential — This allows you to view any number of new Stitch user profiles per day, and gives you access to Stitch’s real-time customer support chat feature.  However, you cannot use Stitch’s secure calling feature.

  • Standard — This unlocks all of Stitch’s features: no limit on how many new Stitch user profiles you can view in a day, plus real-time customer support chat and secure voice calling with other Stitch users.

To change your subscription: 

  1. Click the Select Plan button underneath the subscription that you want.

  2. A confirmation window will pop up, telling you how your access to Stitch’s features will change and whether or not you will be refunded (usually when switching between two paid plans).  Click Confirm to switch plans, or click I Changed My Mind to keep what you have.

  3. If you decide to change your subscription, you’ll have to enter some personal information.  Click in the respective boxes highlighted in the screenshot below and type in your name, address, postal code, and city.  Then click the drop-down menu and select which country you live in.  When you’re done, click Payment Info.

  4. You’ll now have to enter some billing information.  Click in the respective boxes highlighted in the screenshot below and type in your credit card number, your credit card’s expiry date, and your credit card’s security code.  Then click Pay.

If you need any further help or explanations with any of these settings, visit Stitch’s Support Centre at www.support.stitch.net and click on any of the help articles there.  You can also click Contact at the top-right corner of this page, and when the form appears, fill in: 

  • your name (optional)

  • your email address

  • the subject (a quick description of the issue you’re having)

  • your message (a detailed explanation of your question or problem)

Then click Send.

And that’s a quick overview of the different settings that you can change on Stitch!


Stitch Communication

So you’ve seen a few people on Stitch that you wouldn’t mind dating or just spending time with.  Great!  Now, how do you take the next step of inviting one out for coffee, or perhaps a funny movie, or some other fun activity?

In order to communicate with other users on Stitch, two things have to happen:

  1. You have to be “stitched” (matched) with that user.  This means that not only do you have to have viewed their profile and clicked I’m Interested, but they have to have viewed your profile and clicked I’m Interested as well.

  2. You both have to have your identities verified on Stitch.  See our Stitch Verification tutorial to learn how to do this for yourself.

How to communicate on Stitch

  1. Go to www.stitch.net in your web browser and log in.  When you get to the main page, click Stitches in the top-right corner.  (It will have a green dot beside it if you have any new “stitches”, or a new message from an existing “stitch”.)

  2. This page is where you’ll see all of the people that are as interested in you as you are in them.  They will be highlighted in green if they are new, or have left you a new message.  Find a person that you want to contact, and then click Open Stitch.

  3. Here, you’ll have some options as to what to do with this match.  Click View Profile to see their full profile, or click inside the box that says “Click here to write [person’s name] a message”, type in something you want to say to or ask them, and then click Send (which will appear once you’ve written something).

    If they send you something back, it will show up here, too.  As explained above, your Stitches button will have a green dot beside it if you have a new “stitch” or message, and a “stitch” will be highlighted if they’re new or have sent you a new message.

    You can also click Back in the top-left corner if you don’t want to do anything with this match and would rather look at other matches.

  4. You can also click Call [Person’s Name] to initiate a secure phone call with the person.  Note that for this to work, both you and the person you’re attempting to call must:

    – have their identities verified on Stitch (as we mentioned above)
    – have provided Stitch with a phone number (usually during account creation)
    – be on the “Standard” subscription (see our Stitch Settings tutorial for more info)

  5. You will now see a screen like this one.  Use a phone to call the phone number that appears on your screen (i.e. not the one in the screenshot below), and when you’re prompted, use your phone to dial the P.I.N. that appears on your screen, too. 

    This allows you to use an anonymous random phone line to call someone you meet on Stitch without revealing any personal information… until you’re ready, of course.

  6. If you’ve talked for a while and decide that things aren’t working out with this “stitch”, you can delete them by going back to Stitches and clicking the “X” in the corner of the person’s profile.

    You will have to click Yes, Delete in the window that pops up in order to delete this “stitch”.  Note that this means that you will never be able to find this person’s profile again, and neither of you will be able to communicate with each other over Stitch again, so be sure that this is what you want!

And those are the ways that you can communicate with your matches on Stitch!


Browsing on Stitch

Once you’re verified on Stitch, it’s time to start looking for people to hook up with!  When you’re ready to start looking for companions on Stitch — romantic or otherwise — here’s how to do it.

NOTE: You can still browse for companions on Stitch if you aren’t verified, but you can’t see their name or any of their photos, and you can’t communicate with them in any way.

  1. Go to www.stitch.net in your web browser and log in.  When you get to your main page, click Profiles.

  2. The next screen will show you a quick snapshot of your latest potential match, including their picture, whether or not they’ve completed Stitch’s verification process, what kind of relationship they’re looking for (romantic, casual, or both), and where they are in the world.

    If at any time you want to go back to your main page, click Home in the top-left corner.

  3. Simply scroll up and down to view your potential match’s profile. In the “Interests” section, click See All Interests if you can’t see all of them at once.  You can also use the scroll bar in the “Pictures” section to look through the photos they have posted, if they have posted quite a few. 

  4. If you feel that the potential match you’re viewing just isn’t who you’re looking for, click the Not Interested button.  A confirmation window will pop up, asking if you’re really not interested, because this means that Stitch will never show you their profile again.  Click Yes if you’re sure that this is what you want.

    NOTE: The person will not receive a notification that you’re not interested in them, even if they show interest in you. 

  5. If you feel that the potential match is someone you might want to get in contact with, click I’m Interested.  This will send that person a notification that you have done so.  If they also click I’m Interested when viewing your profile, you will receive a notification that you are both “Stitched”!

    If you “Stitch” with someone, you will have the option to click Start Chatting to begin communicating with them right away.  (See our Stitch Communication tutorial for instructions on how to do this.)  If you don’t feel like it right now, click Continue Browsing.

  6. If you just aren’t sure whether someone you’re viewing would be a good match right now, click the Maybe Later button.  This will tell Stitch to show you this profile again after you’ve looked at all of your new potential matches.

  7. Finally, if you see something on a potential match’s profile that doesn’t look quite right, like a picture that’s out of place, or a description of themselves that doesn’t match up with their interests, you can click Report This User

    This will send an alert to Stitch’s customer support team, and they will investigate the profile to see if anything’s wrong with it, and block that person’s account if they are found to be abusing the website.

Those are the basics of browsing for matches on Stitch!