OkCupid Review

Now that we've covered what OkCupid is, how much it can cost, and assessed how safe it is, it’s time to review the service.  Will OkCupid help you find the love of your life, or will it fill your life with meaningless notifications? In our OkCupid review, we highlight the pros and cons of this service for you.

Pros

  • Free to start, and mostly free to use – It is 100% free to sign up for and use OkCupid. Certain aspects require you to upgrade to the A-List, but a user can easily be matched with people in their area, and interact with them without needing to pay for anything.
  • Instant Connections – Signing up for OkCupid is very quick, because you only have to input a small amount of information, and answer 7 questions. From that, you are instantly matched with people and can view the profiles of hundreds (or thousands) of users in your area. You can also instantly message and talk to other users the second you complete the OkCupid sign up.
  • Question and Answer = Better Matches – Though you only need to answer 7 initial questions, OkCupid has a bank of hundreds of questions that you can answer at your own pace. These contain much greater details about your personality, and are even sorted into categories such as lifestyle, ethics, or dating preferences. As you view users, you can see their answers to the same questions you have answered – or answer more to reveal their answers! The more questions you answer, the higher your potential match percentage goes up. This is a great way to get to know people, especially because OkCupid allows you to explain any answer you give if you feel the multiple choice options don’t truly describe how you feel.

Cons

  • Unwanted Messages – Because there is no large initial questionnaire on OkCupid like there is on other dating websites, only 7 basic questions determine your Match % with another user. Any user in your area can message you once you create a profile, regardless of how good of a match you are. In addition, unless you choose to hide a user in your privacy settings, any OkCupid user has the ability to message you or view your profile as frequently as they like.
  • No Verification or Pre-Screening – Any person can sign up for OkCupid, as long as they have an email. It is extremely easy to be dishonest about your personal details, and still gain access to all of the OkCupid users. Though that makes sign up quick, it also means that the users are vulnerable to frequent online scams, and interacting with users who are not who they say they are.
  • Question and Answer = A Long Process – Though the detailed questions are great for increasing your chances of finding a good match on OkCupid, it can be an extremely long process to get to the point where you’re interacting with users you are compatible with. You also need to have answered the same question as any other user in order to see how they answered the question (unless you upgrade your account to the A-List).

The bottom line: 7.5 / 10

OkCupid offers instant connections to users, and it is incredibly easy to interact with your matches. Because of this, the type of relationship people are looking for is extremely varied. The more questions you answer, the more likely you are to make a good connection with your match, so if you use OkCupid, take some time to answer a few questions each time you log on.

It is very easy to use this site without needing to pay, however, the paid subscription options they offer through the A-List could be beneficial to some, depending on your preferences. There is no form of verification for OkCupid, and literally anyone can create an account without being screened – so take extra care to ensure your privacy is protected and you are safe while using OkCupid. For safety tips, visit our previous tutorial.

 

If you'd like to see how OkCupid stacks up compared to other similar dating websites, check out our article on the Best 6 Websites like OkCupid!

Anyway, that’s the basic good and bad of OkCupid. If you think you’d like this dating site based on our OkCupid reviews, check out our next lesson on how to sign up for OkCupid.


Is OkCupid Safe?

Now you know what OkCupid is and how it works, and how much it can cost you, so it’s time we explain the safety concerns that online dating websites pose to users. Online dating sites are a great way to instantly connect with people in your area, and the science behind them has come a long way to ensure you can find exactly what you’re looking for.

However, dating (especially online), can pose threats to your privacy, and sometimes pose emotional or physical danger. It's important to always be cautious when connecting with potential romantic partners online, and this guide will help to make sure you are keeping yourself safe while exploring OkCupid.

How safe is OkCupid?

OkCupid is as safe as many other popular dating applications and websites such as eHarmony.com. OkCupid is designed to make quick connections with matches in your area, while focussing on compatibility. OkCupid’s privacy depends on your personal settings, so it is your responsibility to set these once you join OkCupid.

Like many other dating websites, OkCupid’s safety is largely dependent on how diligently you can follow reasonable precautions when dealing with the people whom you communicate with and take out on dates.

Top 5 OkCupid safety tips

1. Protect your personal and financial information.

Never include your social security number, credit card information, or other banking information in your OkCupid profile, and remember that OkCupid will never ask you for this information, unless you voluntarily choose to upgrade your OkCupid account. Never give any of this information out to OkCupid users, and if you can, try to avoid providing any definitive information about your identity in your profile such as your full name, your phone number, your email address, or your home address.  Only give personal information to another person on OkCupid when you are comfortable enough with them to go on a date.

2. Set your privacy settings – immediately!

As soon as you create a profile on OkCupid, you should set your privacy settings to what you are comfortable with, as this may be different than the OkCupid default. To do this, click your profile picture in the corner of the screen, and select Settings from the drop-down menu. On the left side, select Privacy from the menu, and alter any settings you find necessary. You can also consider upgrading to A-List in order to browse other profiles invisibly, if you would prefer not to notify users that you viewed their profile.

3. Research other users before meeting them.

Remember that you are always in control of your own privacy – you should never feel pressured to go on a date with another OkCupid user. Especially if it is your first time, online dating can be overwhelming, as many users are used to the online dating dynamic.

Take things at a pace that you're comfortable with, and ask as many questions as you need to in order to feel safe before you meet another user in person.  Researching the background of a potential date based on the information they have made available to you on their profile is an excellent idea, as you need to keep in mind that anyone can go online and create an account; there is no way for OkCupid to verify the age, gender, location, or any other information of a user. 

If they're honest and trustworthy, they will understand your need to feel secure, and will likely have the same concerns.  If a user becomes impatient with you or is hesitant to share personal information after you’ve made a connection, you should consider slowing things down with that person and explore other options.

4. Take proper precautions when meeting an OkCupid user on a date.

When you're finally ready to meet another OkCupid user in person, remember that you still need to exercise caution. Because it is so easy for users to be dishonest about any aspect of their online profile, there are some steps you should take prior to meeting anyone in person. In case the person of your dreams turns out to have twisted the truth on their profile, consider:

  • Public spaces are your friend! Never agree to meet your date in a private or isolated location, especially their home or yours.  Instead, insist on meeting your date in a public place where there are bound to be other people around.  Coffee shops, a popular pub, a restaurant, or a park (during the day) are all great options. Your date is less likely to try anything suspicious or dangerous in a place where others can see and intervene.

  • Let a close friend or family member know about your date, and be sure to tell them where you are meeting, and tell them as much information you can about your date. Ensure you have a failsafe way of contacting them (like a fully-charged mobile phone), in case something happens during your date, and set a time you expect to be finished so that they can check in and make sure everything is alright.

  • Never allow your date to pick you up or drop you off.  Getting into a car with someone you don't know or trust can be dangerous.  Instead, arrange your own transportation: drive your own car, a taxi, or take public transit.

5. Report OkCupid users who behave suspiciously.

If you have the unfortunate experience of interacting with users who aren’t who they say they are, or who act in an inappropriate or offensive way, you can help prevent them from continuing to do so by reporting them to OkCupid. Consider reporting anyone who:

  • asks for your OkCupid account user name or password
  • sends you messages on OkCupid that include links to third-party websites
  • insists on meeting you (however briefly) outside of OkCupid before you're ready to do so
  • asks you for money or donations
  • appears on OkCupid with two or more very similar profiles that have different names
  • asks for your home address, usually under the guise of wanting to send you gifts
  • appears in their OkCupid profile picture(s) to be under the age of 18
  • sends you threatening or deliberately offensive messages through OkCupid
  • continues sending you messages after you have asked them to stop
  • behaves inappropriately or dangerously when you meet them
  • appears significantly different from their description when you meet them in person
  • sends you messages through OkCupid attempting to sell you a product or service
  • once researching, you discover has been dishonest about their basic profile information (for example, you find a profile on another website for this user and they are underage)

 

We’ve answered the question ‘Is OkCupid Safe?’ If you'd like more tips on how to use OkCupid safely, visit the American Federal Trade Commission's page on dating scams here, or Techboomers' own article on safe online dating here. In our next tutorial, we'll review OkCupid

 


Is OkCupid Free?

Now that you've learnt what OkCupid is and how it works, it’s time to find out how much it can cost you. Which aspects of OkCupid are free, and how will that affect your ability to find matches? These are the questions that we'll be answering in this article.

When is OkCupid free?

OkCupid is free to use, and the majority of its features can be used without a paid subscription. You are able to “like” other users, update most of your preferences, use the “Quickmatch” function, and see all of your matches for free. You can also log in online or use the app anytime, as often as you like, for free.

Unlike eHarmony.com or Match.com, you do not have to pay a monthly subscription fee to use OkCupid. If you want access to more features with your OkCupid account, you need to join the A-List. There are two forms of paid subscription for OkCupid: “A-List Basic” and “A-List Premium.” The A-List allows you additional privileges such as advanced search options that increase your likelihood of finding a match, being able to see every user who has visited your profile and liked you, and most importantly, no ads!

How much does OkCupid cost?

OkCupid costs as little as $4.95 per month for the A-List Basic package and up to $24.90 per month for A-List Premium. There are three levels of subscriptions for both A-List Basic and A-List Premium. The longer your sign up for, the cheaper your rate will be. However, your standard OkCupid account is 100% free to use.

Here is a full breakdown of the available packages:

A List Basic:                                                     A List Premium:
6 months for $4.95/month                           6 months for $19.90/month
3 months for $7.95/month                           3 months for $22.90/month
1 month for $9.95/month                             1 month for $24.90/month

You can also pay to “Boost” your profile, which allows you to be seen first on Quickmatch, and to be shown more frequently in other users’ match results. A boost can be purchased at any time for $1.99, or you can purchase 5 boosts for $1.89 each, or 10 boosts for $1.69 each.

How to upgrade your OkCupid account

1. To upgrade your OkCupid, select Purchase A-List from your home screen.

Where to purchase the OkCupid A-List

2. Choose a subscription plan, and click Subscribe.

Choose from the OkCupid paid subscription plans

3. Fill out your credit card information or connect through Paypal, and select Confirm Purchase.

Enter your billing information to pay for OkCupid services

10 Features and Benefits of the OkCupid A-List

With A-List Basic, you get the following added features:

1.      Remove ads

The with A-List, you do not have to deal with annoying ads as you try to find romance.

2.      Advanced match search options

You can filter your searches even further, searching by attractiveness, personality traits, body type, and more. You can also search for matches based on how a user has answered a question.

3.      Browse profiles invisibly

You can visit profiles anonymously without notifying the user you were there, unless you want them to know.

4.      See who has visited you, and who likes you

Without the A-List, you cannot see who has liked you, and you can only see the last 5 users who have visited your profile. Unless you can spend all day on OkCupid, this can be frustrating. With the A-List, you can see everyone who has ever visited your profile, as well as anyone who has liked you.

5.      Better messaging

Upgrading to the A-List will allow you to store up to 5000 messages, and it will send read receipts for your messages, so you know if someone has read what you’ve sent. It also filters messages by length, keywords, and attractiveness – giving you the best messages from your best matches. You can also see your chances of receiving a reply from any user you message.

6.      Change your username

Feel like your spur-of-the-moment choice of username isn’t helping you find the right partner? With the A-List, you can change your username without needing to delete your account, and build your entire profile from scratch.

With A-List Premium, you get all of the A-List Basic features, plus:

7.      Automatic daily boost

Receive a boost each day during peak hours to be seen by more people. See the How to Use OkCupid tutorial for more information on Boosting.

8.      Increased attractiveness

See and be seen by users who are more physically attractive matches.

9.      See all question answers

See how users answered questions without needing to answer the same question.

10.  Message priority

Your messages will always go to the top of the inbox of the users you choose to message.

 

Now that you know the potential costs of OkCupid, let’s see how safe OkCupid is to use in our next tutorial. 


What is OkCupid and How Does It Work?

Are you tired of signing up for dating websites that make you offer up every last detail about your lifestyle and habits just to see other singles in your area?  Still want the opportunity to make meaningful connections with people you meet online? This is what you get at OkCupid.com. Instantly browse matches in your area after completing a sign up process that takes less than 5 minutes! Then add information as you go to increase your likelihood of finding more compatible matches.

So what exactly is OkCupid?

OkCupid is a dating website that offers instant connections to users in your area whose personality and habits match yours. Use the “Quick Match” function to immediately decide whether you “like” someone, and see if they like you back. Answer questions at your own pace to increase your likelihood of finding true love!

Unlike eHarmony.com and Match.com, there are no lengthy questionnaires to fill out before you start; browse your matches after only a short sign up process providing basic information, and instantly message any user. You can also keep track of who visits your profile, and who out of those users like you. Like someone back quickly to spark up a conversation!

How OkCupid works: 4 steps to finding love

1. Sign up for a free OkCupid account.

Creating an account on OkCupid is beyond simple – and it’s free! Just enter your gender, orientation, birthday, ZIP code and email, and then choose a username and password. You can then “Kickstart” your profile by entering a single “About Me” paragraph, choosing to answer 7 simple Yes or No questions to get you started with some compatible matches, and choosing 3 users that you think are your type – all steps you can skip at any time if you want to see your matches immediately. 

OkCupid sign up form

2. Search for compatible matches in different ways.

Easily Browse Matches on OkCupid, and connect with users in your area based on your compatibility. Filter these matches, sorting by location, Match %, age, personality, lifestyle, or anything you choose. Feel like you can make an instant connection with someone? Try your luck with the Quick Match and instantly “like” other users to see if they like you back. Or if you prefer a slower pace, click on any user to freely browse their profile in more detail, and even see how they answered the hundreds of optional questions OkCupid asks its users.

OkCupid profile page

3. Instantly communicate with your matches and any OkCupid user.

When you find a good match on OkCupid, click the yellow star on their profile to “like” them, or you can send them a Message. Instant message with anyone who is currently online, and hope anyone offline will answer you later if they’re feeling it too. Send messages back and forth with a potential match to set up a date! There’s no waiting with OkCupid – you can begin messaging the instant you create a profile. 

Exchanging messages with OkCupid matches

4. Answer Questions at your own pace.

OkCupid only makes you answer 7 questions to get started, but 7 questions won’t give you a very accurate measurement of your compatibility with someone. That’s why OkCupid offers you the option to Answer Questions whenever you like! Choose from OkCupid’s bank of hundreds of questions to increase your measurement of compatibility with other users.

If you answer a question, you can then see the answer any other user has provided when you visit their profile. If you haven’t answered that question, answer it on the spot to reveal your match’s answer! Do this as often as you want at your own pace to increase your chance of finding true love.

Answering OkCupid questions

 

The rest of our OkCupid course will discuss how much OkCupid costs to use, how safe it is, our review of OkCupid, how to sign up for an account, and how to use the different features of OkCupid.  We'll even throw in how to delete your account if you find it isn’t meeting your romantic needs. Check out our next tutorial on how much OkCupid can cost you.