Stitch takes the security of its customers very seriously, especially since older adults tend to be a demographic that is frequently targeted for scams both online and offline. While Stitch has a function that allows you to report users whom you don't think are using Stitch in good faith (possibly leading to them getting kicked off the website), it also has a way to make sure very few of those types of people ever make it onto the website in the first place: identity verification.
Everyone on Stitch has to verify their identity before they can:
View complete user profiles, including first names and photos
Send and receive messages with other Stitch users
Make secure phone calls with other Stitch users using Stitch's private phone service
Suggest or RSVP for a Stitch event
RSVP for a Stitch travel package
Getting your identity verified on Stitch shows other Stitch users that you can be trusted, because you're buying into the Stitch community's mission of keeping everyone safe.
While the information that Stitch asks you for is a little more personal than what some other dating websites may ask you for, there's a good reason for that: it can be cross-checked against government databases. This means that it's much more difficult to fake than, say, an address or credit card number. Scammers and con artists may be able to use phony information to set up operations on other dating websites, but their usual tricks won't work on Stitch.
And, rest assured, Stitch collects your personal information for verification purposes only. The only people they'll share it with are the people who cross-check it against government records. They won't store it at any time, and this means that they won't share it with any other Stitch user, either.
How to get verified on Stitch
Go to www.stitch.net in your web browser and log in. When you get to your main screen, click Get Verified at the top of the screen.
You can also get here by clicking Menu in the top-right corner, and then clicking Settings.
Then, in the "Settings" menu, click Verification.
You have two options for getting verified: Photo Check and Personal Details. The Personal Details one is much simpler (as Photo Check requires the use of a computer-mounted camera — or "webcam" — in order to use it), so go ahead and click that option.
First up is your general information. Click in each of the boxes here and type in your first name, last name, street address, state/province/territory, city, and mailing code. Then click the drop-down menu and select your country. Finally, click Next.
Next, you will have to type in the last four digits of your Social Security Number, as well as your date of birth. Click in the box highlighted here and type in the last four digits of your social security number. Then, click each of the drop-down menus below this box and select the year, month, and day of your birth, respectively. Then click Next.
You will now have a chance to review your information before you submit it. (Don't worry; the information in the screenshot below is just for test purposes, and is not a real person! It probably wouldn't even work if you used it!) Click Change to repeat steps 5 and 6 if you need to fix something, or click Verify to continue.
Stitch will quickly use its partnered verification service, BlockScore, to see if your information checks out. If it does, you will receive a notification that you have been verified! Congratulations! You are now ready to use Stitch!
Ready to see how Stitch does dating differently for older adults? The first thing you'll need to do is create an account on the website. This includes typing in your name, posting a profile picture or two, giving Stitch a phone number to let them get in touch with you in case you need help, and generally telling Stitch who you are and who you're looking for (in terms of distance away, gender, interests, etc.).
Signing Up for Stitch
Go to www.stitch.net in your web browser. When you reach the main screen, click Sign Up in the top-right corner.
You'll be taken to a screen like the one below. Click where it says "Email Address" and type in your email address. Then click where it says "Password" and type in a password that you want to use for your account (it will show up as bullet points to protect it from prying eyes). Finally, click Sign Up.
On the next screen, you'll be asked to type in your first name. Click in the box and type in your first name, and then click Next.
The next few screens will just tell you a bit about Stitch. Just click Next until you can click Start Stitching!, or click the "X" in the top-right corner.
At the next screen, you'll have to fill in some basic information. The first item is your first name. If you entered it in step 3, it will show up here automatically. If you want to change it, click near the end of your name in the box below, press the "Backspace" key on your keyboard until your name is gone, and then type it in again.
Scroll down, and next you'll have to post some profile pictures. To start, click on any of the squares within the highlighted box below. (We'd suggest starting with the one that says "Add Main Photo".)
Now, you'll have to select the photo that you want to use, and where you want to get it from. For the purposes of this tutorial, we'll assume that you want to pick your photo from one that's already on your computer, so we'll stick with the My Computer option.
The easiest way to do this is to click Choose File, which brings up an explorer window where you can navigate through the files on your computer. Once you find the file that you want, click on it to select it, and then click Open.
Repeat steps 6 and 7 for any other photos of yourself that you'd like to add.
Finally, you'll be asked about one thing that you like to do but don't have anybody with whom you can do it. Click in the empty box highlighted below and type in what you're looking to potentially do with someone you find using Stitch. Then click Next.
The next step is telling Stitch who you're looking to meet, and why.
You can choose if you are looking for someone to date romantically, or are looking for someone to do fun things together with. You can also choose whether you are looking for men or women in this regard. Click the buttons highlighted in the screenshot to turn these options on (green) or off (grey).
Next, click either Female or Male here to select your gender.
Next, you'll have to select the geographical proximity in which you want to search for matches. Click the drop-down menu beside "I Would like to Meet Someone Within" and select an option.
You can choose between:
– 100 miles (Driving distance)
– 500 miles (Train ride)
– 2000 miles (Airplane flight)
– Anywhere in the world
Note that because Stitch is a relatively new service, its user base may not be very large in certain areas, so you may have to pick a larger proximity in order to get any matches.
Scroll down, and Stitch will ask you for your phone number. This is so Stitch can let you use their secure voice call features and get in contact with you if there's a problem with your account.
Click on the flag to select the country that you live in from the drop-down menu (so Stitch knows what country code to use if they call you), and then click on the empty box beside it and type in your phone number (Stitch will add the country code automatically).
When you're done, click Next.
Next, you'll answer a few questions about yourself. Everything on this page is optional, so if you can't think of a good answer to a question right off the bat, you can come back to it later. Just remember that the more you fill out, the easier it will be for you to find matches.
For the "Quick Questions" section, click on the edit button () beside a question to open a box where you can input your answer. Click in the empty white box that appears, and then type in your best response to the question. Then click Save. Or, click Cancel if you don't like your answer, or you aren't ready to answer the question yet.
Scroll down and you'll find two more questions to fill out. One is some general information about who you are as a person. The other is some general information about the kind of person you're looking to be a match with.
Just click in either of the empty white boxes and start typing in what you want to say. When you're done, click Save.
Scroll down once more, and Stitch will ask you about some activities that you'd like to do together with someone you match with. Click in the empty white box and type in an activity.
As you type, Stitch will suggest possible activities in a drop-down menu; click one to add it to your list. You can also click Add (your activity) to add the activity manually if Stitch can't find a match for it.Then type in additional activities, if you so choose.
Also, if you want to delete an activity that you've already entered, click the "X" beside it.
When you're ready to move on, click Next.
You will be taken to your homepage on Stitch. Congratulations! You're ready to start using the service!
Want to try Stitch and have the freedom to choose a genuine person for either companionship or intimacy? Here are some advantages and disadvantages to the service.
Choose what kind of relationship you want — When you sign up for Stitch, you get to choose what you're looking for in a match: a partner for romance and intimacy, or just a friend to share some quality time with. You can change your choice later if you want to. You can even look for both at the same time, if you're not sure!
Beauty is more than skin-deep — Appearance is almost never a factor on Stitch. Matching with a potential companion is all about who you are and what you like to do as a person.
What happens on Stitch, stays on Stitch — Stitch is designed for privacy. It will never put your personal information up on any other social networks, and it won't allow anyone to find your profile on Stitch by using a search engine (like Google Search).
Troublemakers get screened out — Stitch only allows you to input your personal information (including your profile photo) or privately communicate with your matches through the website itself. It also requires people to sign up with certain personally-verifiable pieces of information before they can see your full profile. Steps like this ensure that almost everyone on Stitch is committed to honesty and safety, and not someone trying to scam you out of personal details or money.
Flexible payment plans — Stitch's subscription fees are charged on a monthly basis. You don't have to pay for them all at once, and you can cancel or change your subscription at any time without having to pay for the subscription for the rest of the year.
Free doesn't go too far — Many of Stitch's features are limited or blocked unless you have a paid subscription. For example, a "free" subscription only allows you to look at 3 new profiles every day, and doesn't give you access to customer support or secure private phone communication with other users.
Why do you need to know that? — Some people may think that Stitch asking for information about things like a passport, social insurance number, or government-issued photo ID intrudes into their privacy too much. However, this information is only used to verify a member’s identity; it is only asked for one time, is only shared with the ID-verification services that Stitch uses (for the purpose of seeing if everything checks out), and is never kept on file by Stitch.
Small scale… for now — Currently, Stitch is only available in English, and only provides searching for local matches in and around certain major American cities (such as San Francisco, New York City, and Los Angeles). However, you can still search for matches within specified distances.
The Bottom Line: 9/10
What really makes Stitch stand out is that it's driven by a method and a goal that are both based on in-depth research and feedback from its target audience. First of all, Stitch understands that dating for older adults is almost never about looks; it's about who you are as a person and what you like to do. While some other dating websites (like eHarmony) recognize and base their services on this, Stitch also works on another principle that almost all of its competitors miss.
For a lot of older adults, "dating" isn't always about intimacy or marriage. Sometimes, it's just about having quality social connections that keep you from feeling isolated and lonely. So, if you want to look for that "special someone" on Stitch, that's fine. But if you're just looking for a new best friend or clique to share fun times with, you can totally do that with Stitch, too! Stitch only shows you people who are looking for the same type of relationship as you, so you're in control of the type of companion(s) that you want.
The other great thing about Stitch is that it takes your privacy and security very seriously. Stitch isn't one of those dating websites where the goal is to put yourself out there and get as much attention as possible in the hopes of finding at least a few interesting people. There's much greater emphasis on establishing honesty and trust right from the get-go, so you'll know if you really click with someone a lot faster. Plus, there is almost zero chance that you will be taken advantage of by a scam artist or someone who is not who they say they are.
Stitch's main downsides stem from the fact that it's a relatively new service. It doesn't have too many established local user bases yet, so it can be a little tricky to find a match close to you. It's also a little short on features for those who don't have a paid subscription (though the pricing plans are rather fair and flexible when compared to those on alternative sites). As Stitch grows, though, it's bound to improve in these areas.
In the meantime, Stitch offers a unique matchmaking service tailored to older adults based on their needs surrounding social engagement and personal security. If you feel that traditional dating websites are too full of phonies or unwillingly force you to go all-in on the romance front, definitely see if Stitch can give you what these other services can't.
Stitch (www.stitch.net) isn't your typical "dating for seniors" website. It isn't even your typical dating website, for that matter. Sure, Stitch does dating… but there's so much more to it than that.
The team behind Stitch created it with a specific goal in mind: to fight the trend of older adults becoming increasingly socially isolated as they age. When they conducted a series of demographic studies, they found that many people over 50 who had otherwise fulfilling lives — a steady job, a loving family, and/or a healthy bank balance — were still missing something. They were lonely, and without other people– be it a "special someone" or just a close group of friends — with whom to share the rest of their life.
What Stitch understands — and what many of the most popular dating websites don't — is that for many older adults, "dating" isn't necessarily about intimacy, romance, or marriage. It's about finding a person or people with whom you can just have fun and be yourself. Maybe you'd like to plan a trip halfway around the world with someone, or maybe you'd prefer a kind of loose social club where you can swap the latest gossip over dinner. With Stitch, it's your choice as to what you want your relationship to be: friends, partners, or something more.