eHarmony is one of the most well-known online dating websites. Its signature questionnaire helps you match with people who don’t just fit or share your interests, but instead will be compatible with you in terms of emotional and relationship values. It also helps you pace your communication with your matches, so that each of you remains comfortable and things don’t move too quickly. eHarmony is excellent for people who are new to the dating scene, or are otherwise looking for a stable, long-term relationship.
On the other hand, eHarmony isn’t that great for people who are into quick, casual dating. The long value questionnaire and the slow, guided communication process can seem like frustrating roadblocks when you already know what you’re looking for and want to jump right into matching and open communication. eHarmony is also one of the most expensive dating websites to use, costing between $10 per month (for a 2-year term) and $60 per month (for a one-month term).
If eHarmony brings your love life nothing but discord, here are six popular eHarmony alternatives to look into.
Match.com is often touted as eHarmony’s biggest rival, with a large user base from over 25 countries around the globe. Unlike eHarmony’s value-based questionnaire, Match.com’s profile building survey is geared more towards traits like physical appearance, lifestyle choices, and hobbies. Like eHarmony, though, you need a paid subscription on Match to view and contact other users who are interested in you — and Match.com’s prices also tend to be rather expensive. Want to see what Match.com is like first-hand? Visit our Match.com course!
Similar to eHarmony, Spark.com is a dating website that caters more towards people looking to date with the end goal of having a long-term relationship. To that end, it evaluates your behaviour, talents, and relationship needs with its “Colour Code” test. It also has a very user-friendly interface, including the ability to send e-cards to other users. However, if you want to send private messages back and forth with the people you like on Spark.com, you need a paid subscription (like on Match).
OkCupid takes a different approach to dating than eHarmony and Spark. Instead of its questionnaires being the soul-searching type that test your emotional and relationship values, OkCupid employs fun general quizzes created by the website’s staff and users about personalities, relationships, and dating. Based on how you answer, how you would like to see a match answer, and how important each question in a quiz is, OkCupid will pair you with potential matches who use the website in a similar manner. Most of OkCupid’s functions are free to use, and getting a paid subscription only gives you minor upgrades (such as getting rid of advertisements).
Zoosk joins OkCupid in being an alternative to eHarmony that focuses more on social, short-term dating rather than extended relationships. By participating in its popularity contests and personality quizzes, you’ll provide more information to Zoosk about what you’re looking for in a match or relationship. Zoosk uses this information to adjust the kinds of people that you’re matched with over time. However, if you want to communicate with your matches, you’ll need a paid subscription.
Hailing from Canada, this dating website is another eHarmony alternative with a large user base, rivaling Match in membership numbers. However, it is philosophically and structurally quite similar to eHarmony and Spark. Its two matching tests, the “Chemistry Test” and the “Relationship Needs” test, evaluate what you need (or need to do) in a relationship, and the type of person who might be able to fulfill your needs. About the only features that you need a paid subscription for on PlentyOfFish are viewing users who have shown interest in you, and whether or not they have read or deleted a message from you. Otherwise, PlentyOfFish is free to use.
Tinder is available exclusively as an application on mobile devices, and it’s a popular dating service for younger people. Part of the reason for this is its simplified approach: when you sign up, your profile is created for you, based on details copied over from your Facebook account. Then, you just decide which of your suggested matches you like or not. If someone whom you “like” does the same for you, you’re matched! Then, you can chat using the easy-to-use messaging feature. No big questionnaires, no hand-holding during the communication process… just simplicity. However, Tinder isn’t as good at helping you form long-term relationships as eHarmony, and — as we mentioned — you need a Facebook account to use it.
BONUS! Dating websites and apps for specific demographics
- Christianmingle.com — A dating and faith-sharing website for Christians.
- BlackSingles.com — A dating website that caters to single black people.
- JDate.com — a dating and faith-sharing community for followers of Judaism.
- GolfMates.com — A dating community centered around the game of golf.
- Stitch.net — A website designed for older adults, to foster companionship or romance (visit our course to learn more!)
Have you tried any of these websites and apps like eHarmony? Did they help you get what you wanted out of the dating scene, or were they just not a good fit for your love life? Are there any other online dating services like eHarmony that you think our users should know about? Whether it’s in the commenting section below or on our social media pages, drop us a line and let us know!
We’ll wrap up our course on eHarmony by showing you how to delete your eHarmony account if you want to switch to another dating service, or just plain don’t need it anymore.